Will the Circle Be Unbroken?

Will the Circle Be Unbroken? is a Christian hymn written in 1907/1908 by Ada R. Habershon and Charles H. Gabriel. The song asks the question of whether or not earthly families will be reunited in heaven. As popular as the song was, though, it was A.P. Carter’s 1935 reworking of it, entitled Can the Circle Be Unbroken (By and By)?, that made the song a national treasure. Truth be told, the Carter version has become so popular that it has rendered the original version virtually obscure.

Carter was a founding member of country music’s legendary Carter family, and his new lyrics for the song told the story of the death and funeral of the narrator’s mother. The Carter family sang their version as part of their shows for years. Then June Carter married Johnny Cash, and he took the song to an even wider audience. From there, the Carter version has been covered by some of the biggest names in music history, including Roy Acuff, Bill Monroe, Jerry Lee Lewis, Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, Willie Nelson, the Neville Brothers, and the Allman Brothers band.

In answer to the song’s question, let me say that as important as your earthly family is, it pales in significance to your membership (or lack of it) in God’s eternal family. Despite what a million movies, television shows, books, and songs tell us — to say nothing of the entire Mormon religion with its false doctrine of “celestial marriage” — earthly relationships do not extend into the afterlife. I will know my wife Tonya in heaven, but she won’t be my wife. I will know my sons, but they won’t be my sons. I will know my mom and dad, but they won’t be my parents. I will know my brother, but he won’t be my brother. These relationships won’t be inferior to what they are now; they’ll just be different. Not worse. Better. Everything in heaven is better.

What’s key, though, is that all these people I have mentioned will be there. And why will we all be there? Will it be because everybody ends up in heaven? No. Will it be because we were such a tight-knit group on earth? No. Will it be because our love spans the test of time across the ages? No. We will all be there because each of us, as an individual, has placed saving belief in Jesus Christ and thereby become a Christian. That’s how one becomes a part of the eternal family of God. Consider the following passages (all from the N.K.J.V.):

  • And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, “Here are My mothers and My brothers! For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven (He explains in John 6:40 that this will equates to receiving eternal life by believing in Him) is My brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:48-50, explanation mine)
  • But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God. (John 1:12-13)
  • Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” (John 14:6)
  • For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:26)
  • Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone… (Ephesians 2:19-20)

These passages all teach the same thing, which is that placing life-changing, eternity-altering, soul-saving belief in Jesus Christ is how you become a part of the family of God. And did you know there are no less than three ways by which the Bible analogizes the Christian becoming a part of that family? Let’s look at each of the three.

First, to place saving belief in Jesus is to become a “born again” “babe in Christ.” This means that the Christian is (in a very real sense) born into the family of God. As we read in John 3:3:

Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” (N.K.J.V.)

Other passages that speak of the new Christian becoming a “born again” “babe in Christ” are:  John 3:5-8; 1 Peter 1:3-4; 1 Peter 1:22-25; 1 Corinthians 3:1-2; Hebrews 5:12-14; and 1 Peter 2:1-3.

Second, to place saving belief in Jesus is to become an adoptee. This means that the Christian is (in a very real sense) adopted into the family of God. As the apostle Paul says in Galatians 4:4-7 to the Christians of Galatia:

But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption of sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ. (N.K.J.V.)

Other passages that speak of the Christian as being adopted are: Romans 8:14-17; Romans 8:22-24; and Ephesians 1:3-6.

Finally, third, to place saving belief in Jesus is to become a bride. This occurs because the new Christian automatically becomes a part of Christ’s bride, the church. This means that (in a very real sense) the Christian marries into the family of God. As Paul says in 2 Corinthians 11:2 to the Christians of Corinth:

For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ. (N.K.J.V.)

Other passages that speak of the Christian as becoming a part of the bride of Christ are: Matthew 9:14-15; Mark 2:18-20 John 3:27-30;  Ephesians 5:22-33; and Revelation 19:5-9.

You see, the Christian just can’t be more a part of the eternal family of God. He or she is born into it, adopted into it, and married into it. Because of this the Christian will enjoy a dual existence in eternity as not only a child of God but also a part of Christ’s bride. All earthly relationships will be rendered obsolete as God the Father fills the role of the Christian’s father and God the Son fills the role of the Christian’s spouse. So, to answer the old song’s question, the family circle will indeed remain unbroken for Christians in heaven, but it will be a much different (and better) family circle than anything we experience on this earth.

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2 Responses to Will the Circle Be Unbroken?

  1. Fred's avatar Fred says:

    This is the most absurd doctrine I have ever heard! It may be common among some Christians but is not universially accepted and every christian funeral I have attended of various faiths have said the same thing about the decesased that they will be reunited with their loved ones not their friends. You have no scriptural basis for your statement. The family circle will not be unbroken at death. Why would a loving Heavenly Father setup this world for us to spend our whole lives building family relations just for them to end at death? He would not. I have spent a lot of time in prayer about this subject and the holy spirit has confirmed that I will have my child that I lost with me when I die. It is the only perfect plan of our Heavenly Father that gives comfort and makes perfect sense on the subject of family relations beyond the grave. “Whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven” (Matthew 16:19)

    • russellmckinney's avatar russellmckinney says:

      First of all, let me say that IF your understanding is correct, it certainly won’t ruin heaven for me. Let me be clear about that. Second, Tonya and I have lost two children as well (by miscarriages), and so if I get to be their dad in heaven I’ll be delighted to do so. Third, as for me having no scriptural basis for what I’ve written, try Matthew 22:23-33 and Luke 20:27-40 where Jesus plainly teaches that there will be no marriage in the afterlife when believers are all enjoying their resurrected bodies. And, fourth, the Matthew 16:19 verse you quote in defense of your position has nothing to do with the topic at hand. Both times (Matthew 16:19, Matthew 18:18) the quote is used in scripture Jesus is talking about the role of the church in regards to matters of church discipline. He’s saying, “If a church carefully works step by step through the process of either bringing a sinning member to repentance or banning the unrepentant member from fellowship, God Himself will back the decision from heaven.” Please understand that I’m really not trying to say that you won’t know your child in heaven or won’t be known by that child (1 Corinthians 13:9-12); all I’m trying to do is stay within the banks of the Bible concerning this topic.

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