“Marriage” series: (post #1)

This post begins a series on the topic of marriage. With each of these posts I’ll answer a question that pertains to the topic. Question #1 is: Where did the idea of marriage come from?

The answer to the question is simple: God gave us the idea of marriage. Genesis 2:18 says:

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make a helper comparable to him.” (N.K.J.V.)

That “helper” was Eve. The Bible first uses the word “wife” in Genesis 2:24, which says of Eve:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (N.K.J.V.)

It is noteworthy that the only thing not “good” about God’s original creation was the fact that Adam was alone. Seven times in Genesis chapter 1 we find some variation of the phrase, “And God saw that it was good.” That all stops, however, when we get to Genesis 2:18, which says it was “not good that man should be alone (emphasis mine).”

Following that jolting change in the storyline, we would assume that the next verse, verse 19, would give us the account of God creating Eve. But that isn’t the way the story reads. Instead, verse 19 talks about Adam naming every beast of the field and bird of the air. What’s up with that? Why didn’t God immediately launch into creating Eve?

He didn’t do it because even though He knew that Adam needed Eve, Adam hadn’t realized it yet. And so, God started bringing land creatures and birds to Adam to let him name them. By reading between the lines just a bit, we can imagine Adam naming each creature and bird and then watching as each one joined back up with its mate to run off or fly off. We know that each of the creatures had a mate because God had previously said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). Well, somewhere over the course of all that naming, Adam had to think, “I don’t have one of those mates.” That was the moment he realized his need for a wife, and that was the moment he became ready to get married.

Of course, the world’s first surgery had to be done before Adam could have a wife. God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and while he was sleeping God removed one of his ribs. From that rib God fashioned Eve.

As for the world’s first wedding, God was the presiding minister over the ceremony. The only vows spoken that day came from Adam when he said of Eve,

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23).

The Hebrew word translated in that verse as “Man” is Ish, while the Hebrew word translated as “Woman” is Ishshah. The close relationship between the two is obvious. Eve was the shah to Adam’s Ish.

Now, here’s what I want to leave with you about this whole story: Since God is the One who gave the human race the idea of marriage, He is the One who gets to set the ground rules for marriage. That means He decides who can get married and who can’t. He decides what constitutes a marriage and what doesn’t. He decides what role the husband should play and what role the wife should play.

Over the course of this series, we’ll be looking at all these issues as well as some others. In each instance, though, we will always come back to the foundation of God and His revealed word. He certainly hasn’t left us in the dark concerning an institution as important as marriage. We just need to let His revealed light shine and walk in it.